The Velvet Rage

Author: Alan Downs
Publisher: Da Capo Lifelong Books
ISBN: 0738215856
Size: 17.81 MB
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Today’s gay man enjoys unprecedented, hard-won social acceptance. Despite this victory, however, serious problems still exist. Substance abuse, depression, suicide, and sex addiction among gay men are at an all-time high, causing many to ask, “Are we really better off?” Drawing on contemporary research, psychologist Alan Downs’s own struggle with shame and anger, and stories from his patients, The Velvet Rage passionately describes the stages of a gay man’s journey out of shame and offers practical and inspired strategies to stop the cycle of avoidance and self-defeating behavior. Updated to reflect the effects of the many recent social, cultural, and political changes, The Velvet Rage is an empowering book that has already changed the public discourse on gay culture and helped shape the identity of an entire generation of gay men.

The Velvet Rage

Author: Alan Downs
Publisher: Hachette UK
ISBN: 0738215856
Size: 29.39 MB
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Today's gay man enjoys unprecedented, hard-won social acceptance. Despite this victory, however, serious problems still exist. Substance abuse, depression, suicide, and sex addiction among gay men are at an all-time high, causing many to ask, "Are we really better off?" Drawing on contemporary research, psychologist Alan Downs's own struggle with shame and anger, and stories from his patients, The Velvet Rage passionately describes the stages of a gay man's journey out of shame and offers practical and inspired strategies to stop the cycle of avoidance and self-defeating behavior. Updated to reflect the effects of the many recent social, cultural, and political changes, The Velvet Rage is an empowering book that has already changed the public discourse on gay culture and helped shape the identity of an entire generation of gay men.

Becoming Gay

Author: Richard A. Isay
Publisher: Macmillan
ISBN: 9780805053159
Size: 10.47 MB
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Drawing on his own odyssey from denial to acceptance and the experiences of his patients, a psychiatrist discusses the psychological evolution of gay men from private feelings to open expression of one's gay identity. Reprint.

Straight Jacket

Author: Matthew Todd
Publisher: Black Swan
ISBN: 9780552778404
Size: 21.49 MB
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Straight Jacket is a revolutionary clarion call for gay men, the wider LGBT community, their friends and family. Part memoir, part ground-breaking polemic, it looks beneath the shiny facade of contemporary gay culture and asks if gay people are as happy as they could be--and if not, why not? Meticulously researched, courageous and life-affirming, Straight Jacket offers invaluable practical advice on how to overcome a range of difficult issues. It also recognizes that this is a watershed moment, a piercing wake-up-call-to-arms for the gay and wider community to acknowledge the importance of supporting all young people--and helping older people to transform their experience and finally get the lives they really want.

Cruise Control

Author: Robert Weiss, MSW
Publisher: eBookIt.com
ISBN: 0985063343
Size: 39.88 MB
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Cruise Control is the premiere book on the growing problem of sex addiction in gay men. This second edition explores how technology has impacted the instant ability to "meet up" and the implications of being in recovery in a committed relationship. Accessible resource for achieving sex addiction recovery including a "30 day test" and a dating plan.

Fat Gay Men

Author: Jason Whitesel
Publisher: NYU Press
ISBN: 0814708382
Size: 53.65 MB
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To be fat in a thin-obsessed gay culture can be difficult. Despite affectionate in-group monikers for big gay men–chubs, bears, cubs–the anti-fat stigma that persists in American culture at large still haunts these individuals who often exist at the margins of gay communities. In Fat Gay Men, Jason Whitesel delves into the world of Girth & Mirth, a nationally known social club dedicated to big gay men, illuminating the ways in which these men form identities and community in the face of adversity. In existence for over forty years, the club has long been a refuge and ‘safe space’ for such men. Both a partial insider as a gay man and an outsider to Girth & Mirth, Whitesel offers an insider’s critique of the gay movement, questioning whether the social consequences of the failure to be height-weight proportionate should be so extreme in the gay community. This book documents performances at club events and examines how participants use allusion and campy-queer behavior to reconfigure and reclaim their sullied body images, focusing on the numerous tensions of marginalization and dignity that big gay men experience and how they negotiate these tensions via their membership to a size-positive group. Based on ethnographic interviews and in-depth field notes from more than 100 events at bar nights, café klatches, restaurants, potlucks, holiday bashes, pool parties, movie nights, and weekend retreats, the book explores the woundedness that comes from being relegated to an inferior position in gay hierarchies, and yet celebrates how some gay men can reposition the shame of fat stigma through carnival, camp, and play. A compelling and rich narrative, Fat Gay Men provides a rare glimpse into an unexplored dimension of weight and body image in American culture.

Boyfriend 101

Author: Jim Sullivan
Publisher: Villard Books
ISBN: 0812992199
Size: 18.43 MB
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In a dating guide for the gay man, a relationship coach shares advice on how to identify the characteristics of one's perfect man, expand one's network of friends, flirt, write a personal ad, establish dating protocols, and insure safe sex with one's partner.

Queer Spirits

Author: Will Roscoe
Publisher: Beacon Pr
ISBN:
Size: 50.11 MB
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A fascinating collection of myths and stories from around the world that offers gay men a key to discovering the myths and heroes of their lives.

How To Be Gay

Author: David M. Halperin
Publisher: Harvard University Press
ISBN: 0674070860
Size: 38.65 MB
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A pioneer of LGBTQ studies dares to suggest that gayness is a way of being that gay men must learn from one another to become who they are. The genius of gay culture resides in some of its most despised stereotypes—aestheticism, snobbery, melodrama, glamour, caricatures of women, and obsession with mothers—and in the social meaning of style.

Queer Blues

Author: Kimeron Hardin
Publisher: New Harbinger Publications
ISBN: 1608825973
Size: 39.18 MB
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Queer Blues is the only guide to focus on the triggers of depression specific to the gay and lesbian community and to offer concrete strategies to overcome them. The authors explain the many forms of depression and explore its unique impact on lesbians and gay men. If you're a lesbian or a gay man struggling with depression, this book offers you real tools for real change. A self-test helps you determine your own level of depression and assess its impact on your life. With this information, go on to explore the reciprocal relationship between mood and self-esteem. Examine your core beliefs about self-worth and identify self-sabotaging habits that may make you vulnerable to both insecurity and depression. A final section provides tested, practical methods distilled from the authors' more than twenty-five years of clinical experience to help you build a plan to effectively manage your depression.