The Lonely American

Author: Jacqueline Olds
Publisher: Beacon Press
ISBN: 0807000353
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In our culture it's more socially acceptable to be depressed than to be lonely. Yet loneliness is the inevitable by-product of our frenetic contemporary lifestyle. In this marvelously acute critique of how we live, Drs. Jacqueline Olds and Richard S. Schwartz show how the American way of life can lead to social isolation. Calling on their extensive clinical experience, new social surveys, and recent research on the effects of social exclusion, Olds and Schwartz uncover the ripple effects of social isolation in areas as varied as physical health, children's emotional problems, substance abuse, violent crimeeven global warming.

Slumming

Author: Chad Heap
Publisher: University of Chicago Press
ISBN: 0226322459
Size: 19.10 MB
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During Prohibition, “Harlem was the ‘in’ place to go for music and booze,” recalled the African American chanteuse Bricktop. “Every night the limousines pulled up to the corner,” and out spilled affluent whites, looking for a good time, great jazz, and the unmatchable thrill of doing something disreputable. That is the indelible public image of slumming, but as Chad Heap reveals in this fascinating history, the reality is that slumming was far more widespread—and important—than such nostalgia-tinged recollections would lead us to believe. From its appearance as a “fashionable dissipation” centered on the immigrant and working-class districts of 1880s New York through its spread to Chicago and into the 1930s nightspots frequented by lesbians and gay men, Slumming charts the development of this popular pastime, demonstrating how its moralizing origins were soon outstripped by the artistic, racial, and sexual adventuring that typified Jazz-Age America. Vividly recreating the allure of storied neighborhoods such as Greenwich Village and Bronzeville, with their bohemian tearooms, rent parties, and “black and tan” cabarets, Heap plumbs the complicated mix of curiosity and desire that drew respectable white urbanites to venture into previously off-limits locales. And while he doesn’t ignore the role of exploitation and voyeurism in slumming—or the resistance it often provoked—he argues that the relatively uninhibited mingling it promoted across bounds of race and class helped to dramatically recast the racial and sexual landscape of burgeoning U.S. cities. Packed with stories of late-night dance, drink, and sexual exploration—and shot through with a deep understanding of cities and the habits of urban life—Slumming revives an era that is long gone, but whose effects are still felt powerfully today.

Lonely

Author: Emily White
Publisher: McClelland & Stewart
ISBN: 155199349X
Size: 74.89 MB
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A brave and revealing examination of an overlooked affliction that affects one in four Canadians. Despite having a demanding job, good friends, and a supportive family, Emily White spent many of her nights and weekends alone at home, trying to understand why she felt so disconnected from everyone. To keep up the façade of an active social life and hide the painful truth, that she was suffering from severe loneliness, the successful young lawyer often lied to those around her — and to herself. In this insightful, soul-baring, and illuminating memoir, White chronicles her battle to understand and overcome this debilitating condition, and contends that chronic loneliness deserves the same attention as other mental difficulties, such as depression. "Right now, loneliness is something few people are willing to admit to," she writes. "There's no need for this silence, no need for the shame and self-blame it creates." By investigating the science of loneliness, challenging its stigma, encouraging other lonely people to talk about their struggles, and defining one person's experience, Lonely redefines how we look at loneliness and helps those afflicted see and understand their mood in an entirely new light, ultimately providing solace and hope. It is a moving, compassionate, and important book about a topic that is affecting more among us each day. From the Hardcover edition.

Overcoming Loneliness In Everyday Life

Author: Jacqueline Olds
Publisher: Birch Lane Press
ISBN: 9781559723435
Size: 44.73 MB
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Explores the risks of loneliness, analyzes its relationship to American individualism, and shows how to overcome it through participating in shared tasks with others

Sharing Housing

Author: Annamarie Pluhar
Publisher:
ISBN: 9780991010400
Size: 24.81 MB
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Finding the right housemate can feel like a gamble and incredibly risky. Annamarie Pluhar's book, Sharing Housing, reduces the risk by guiding the reader with a practical process, insights and tips. This book takes the reader from the initial idea, "Maybe I should have a housemate" to actually living with one. The author draws on her twenty-plus years of experience in living with "former strangers," to present a clear process that will enable the reader to find the right housemate. Within the pages the reader will find: how to eliminate inappropriate people quickly and safely; how to write an ad; how to negotiate the details of living together; and what kind of background checks and references are helpful. The book continues with chapters on actually living together what to expect and how to manage. It's an easy-to-follow readable guide with stories and interviews. Worksheets for each step are included. The book contains a special chapter for single parents considering sharing housing. This book is an essential for anyone looking to have a housemate -from temporary short-term housing to long-term committed intentional communities.

Make Peace With Anyone

Author: Dr. David J. Lieberman, Ph.D.
Publisher: St. Martin's Press
ISBN: 9781429906548
Size: 76.56 MB
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Make Peace with Anyone is the first book that shows readers how to quickly resolve any situation, no matter how long it's been going on, or how many people are involved. The techniques and psychological strategies presented here are simple, easy to understand, and work...fast. In this book readers will learn how to: *End any family feud *Get an apology from anyone *Jumpstart any relationship or friendship *Handle any passive-aggressive person *Get the respect you deserve from anyone *Dramatically improve any relationship *Get anyone to forgive you for anything *Align anyone to your way of thinking Dr. David Lieberman provides the path to permanent peace and will show you the way to Make Peace with Anyone.

A Good Talk

Author: Daniel Menaker
Publisher: Twelve
ISBN: 044655801X
Size: 45.69 MB
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A GOOD TALK is an analysis of and guide to that most exclusively human of all activities-- conversation. Drawing on over forty years of experience in American letters, Menaker pinpoints the factors that drive and enliven every good conversation: the vagaries (and joys) of subtext; the deeper structure and meaning of conversational flow; the subliminal signals that guide our disclosures and confessions; and the countless other hurdles we must clear along the way. Moving beyond self-help musings and "how to" advice, he has created a stylish, funny, and surprising book: a celebration of "the most excusively human of all activities." In a time when conversation remains deeply important-- for building relationships, for relaxing, even for figuring out who we are-- and also increasingly imperiled (with Blackberries and texting increasingly in vogue), A GOOD TALK is a refreshing celebration of the subtle adventures of a good conversation.

Modern Love

Author: Daniel Jones
Publisher: Crown
ISBN: 030738277X
Size: 67.13 MB
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50 Irresistible True Accounts of Love in the Twenty-first Century. A young woman wryly describes a relationship that races from start to finish almost entirely via text messages. A Casanova is jilted after an idyllic three weeks and learns the hard way that the woman is, well, just not that into him. An overweight woman in a sexless marriage wrestles with the rules of desire. A young man recounts the high-wire act of sharing the woman he loves with both her husband and another boyfriend. A female sergeant in the Missouri National Guard, fresh from Iraq, tells what she is not supposed to tell about the woman she is not allowed to love. These are just a few of the people whose stories are included in Modern Love, a collection of the fifty most revealing, funny, stirring essays from the New York Times’s popular “Modern Love” column. Editor Daniel Jones has arranged these tales to capture the ebb and flow of relationships, from seeking love and tying the knot to having children and finding love that endures. (Cynics and melancholics can skip right to the section on splitting up.) Taken together, these essays show through a modern lens how love drives, haunts, and enriches us. For anyone who’s loved, lost, stalked an ex, or made a lasting connection, and for the voyeur in all of us, Modern Love is the perfect match. From the Trade Paperback edition.

The Upward Spiral

Author: Alex Korb
Publisher: New Harbinger Publications
ISBN: 1626251223
Size: 24.90 MB
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Depression can feel like a downward spiral, pulling you into a vortex of sadness, fatigue, and apathy. In The Upward Spiral, neuroscientist Alex Korb demystifies the intricate brain processes that cause depression and offers a practical and effective approach to getting better. Based on the latest research in neuroscience, this book provides dozens of straightforward tips you can do every day to rewire your brain and create an upward spiral towards a happier, healthier life. Whether you suffer from depression or just want a better understanding of the brain, this book offers an engaging and informative look at the neuroscience behind our emotions, thoughts, and actions. The truth is that there isn’t one big solution to depression, but there are numerous simple steps you can take to alter brain activity and chemistry. Some are as easy as relaxing certain muscles to reduce anxiety, or getting more sunlight to improve your mood. Small steps in the right direction can have profound effects—giving you the power to become your best self as you literally reshape your brain, one small change at a time.