Becoming Attached

Author: Robert Karen
Publisher: Oxford University Press, USA
ISBN: 9780195115017
Size: 28.13 MB
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The struggle to understand the infant-parent bond ranks as one of the great quests of modern psychology, one that touches us deeply because it holds so many clues to how we become who we are. How are our personalities formed? How do our early struggles with our parents reappear in the way we relate to others as adults? Why do we repeat with our own children--seemingly against our will--the very behaviors we most disliked about our parents? In Becoming Attached, psychologist and noted journalist Robert Karen offers fresh insight into some of the most fundamental and fascinating questions of emotional life. Karen begins by tracing the history of attachment theory through the controversial work of John Bowlby, a British psychoanalyst, and Mary Ainsworth, an American developmental psychologist, who together launched a revolution in child psychology. Karen tells about their personal and professional struggles, their groundbreaking discoveries, and the recent flowering of attachment theory research in universities all over the world, making it one of the century's most enduring ideas in developmental psychology. In a world of working parents and makeshift day care, the need to assess the impact of parenting styles and the bond between child and caregiver is more urgent than ever. Karen addresses such issues as: What do children need to feel that the world is a positive place and that they have value? Is day care harmful for children under one year? What experiences in infancy will enable a person to develop healthy relationships as an adult?, and he demonstrates how different approaches to mothering are associated with specific infant behaviors, such as clinginess, avoidance, or secure exploration. He shows how these patterns become ingrained and how they reveal themselves at age two, in the preschool years, in middle childhood, and in adulthood. And, with thought-provoking insights, he gives us a new understanding of how negative patterns and insecure attachment can be changed and resolved throughout a person's life. The infant is in many ways a great mystery to us. Every one of us has been one; many of us have lived with or raised them. Becoming Attached is not just a voyage of discovery in child emotional development and its pertinence to adult life but a voyage of personal discovery as well, for it is impossible to read this book without reflecting on one's own life as a child, a parent, and an intimate partner in love or marriage.

A General Theory Of Love

Author: Thomas Lewis
Publisher: Vintage
ISBN: 9780307424341
Size: 30.85 MB
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This original and lucid account of the complexities of love and its essential role in human well-being draws on the latest scientific research. Three eminent psychiatrists tackle the difficult task of reconciling what artists and thinkers have known for thousands of years about the human heart with what has only recently been learned about the primitive functions of the human brain. A General Theory of Love demonstrates that our nervous systems are not self-contained: from earliest childhood, our brains actually link with those of the people close to us, in a silent rhythm that alters the very structure of our brains, establishes life-long emotional patterns, and makes us, in large part, who we are. Explaining how relationships function, how parents shape their child’s developing self, how psychotherapy really works, and how our society dangerously flouts essential emotional laws, this is a work of rare passion and eloquence that will forever change the way you think about human intimacy. From the Trade Paperback edition.

Dyadic Developmental Psychotherapy

Author: Arthur Becker-Weidman
Publisher: Jason Aronson
ISBN: 0765707950
Size: 52.68 MB
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The pervasive effects of maltreatment on child development can be repaired when professionals use effective, empirically validated, and evidence-based methods. This book describes a comprehensive approach to treatment, Dyadic Developmental Psychotherapy, which is an evidence-based, effective, and empirically validated family based treatment. Therapists, social workers, residential treatment programs, psychologists, and child welfare professionals will find this book of immediate practical value. Professors teaching family-therapy, child-welfare, and child-treatment courses will find the book a good adjunct text.

Attachment Theory And Close Relationships

Author: Jeffry A. Simpson
Publisher: Guilford Press
ISBN: 9781572301023
Size: 72.31 MB
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In the last decade, few topics in social and personality psychology have attracted more interest than the application of attachment theory to adult relationships. Comprehensive and up-to-date, this book integrates the most important theoretical and empirical advances in this growing area of study and suggests new and promising directions for future investigation. Its balanced coverage of measurement issues, affect regulation, and clinical applications makes this a valuable sourcebook for scholars, students, and clinicians. This volume would be useful to researchers, teachers, and students, as well as clinical psychologists and other mental health practitioners.

Mapping The Terrain Of The Heart

Author: Stephen Goldbart
Publisher: Jason Aronson
ISBN: 1461629489
Size: 77.18 MB
Format: PDF, ePub, Docs
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Charts six skills that are necessary for a stable love relationship: the capacities for erotic involvement, for merging, for idealization, for integration, for 'refinding,' and for self-transcendence.

Infant Observation At The Heart Of Training

Author: Janine Sternberg
Publisher: Routledge
ISBN: 0429914873
Size: 25.17 MB
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The study of infant observation is widely used as part of training to become a psychoanalytic psychotherapist; the skills learned through infant observation can be widely applied to practicing analysis with all ages. Through the delineation of the views of writers and teachers of infant observation and her own empirical research, Janine Sternberg addresses the reasons why infant observation is a vital part of training for all analysts.

Becoming Attached

Author: Robert Karen
Publisher: Grand Central Pub
ISBN: 9780446516341
Size: 45.60 MB
Format: PDF, Mobi
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Explaining new developments in the attachment theory--one explanation for how personalities are formed--this study provides keen insights and answers crucial questions about mother-infant bonding. 20,000 first printing.

Development And Vulnerability In Close Relationships

Author: Gil G. Noam
Publisher: Psychology Press
ISBN: 1134779453
Size: 68.94 MB
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How do people develop in their important relationships? How do two people come together to form a new, close relationship? How do relationships affect or determine who we are and who we become? These questions should be central to the study of mind and development, but most researchers neglect relationships and focus instead on analyses of individuals, as if people were basically alone, experiencing occasional fleeting moments with other people. Research based on this individualist assumption has dominated the behavioral and clinical sciences, but there are other voices, and they are growing. In this book, many of the scholars who are moving relationships and attachments back to the center of human development outline their central concepts, findings, and perspectives. People are fundamentally social, and relationships are part of the fabric of being human, forming an essential foundation that molds each person's mind and action. A mind does not reside in one person but in relationships and communities, composed of many people's interconnected minds, which mutually support and define each other. From the start and throughout life, each person develops strengths and vulnerabilities in important relationships in communities and cultures. Those relationships are so central to each person's activity and experience that without them, no scientific explanation can even begin to analyze mind and action. There is no mind without other people. There is no psychological vulnerability that does not involve others. The contributors to this book aim to establish a firm foundation for the role of relationships in human activity and health and to promote strong research by bringing together in one place most of the best research and theory on development and relationships. Their goal is to stimulate a more radical inclusion of relationships in mind, an ecological focus on the ways that relationships constitute action, feeling, and thought.

The Forgiving Self

Author: Robert Karen, Ph.D.
Publisher: Anchor
ISBN: 0307765156
Size: 67.13 MB
Format: PDF, ePub
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In this fascinating book about our struggle to forgive, psychologist and award-winning author Robert Karen uses movies, people in the news, and sessions from his practice to illuminate the conflict between our wish to repair our relationships on one side and our tendency to see ourselves as victims who want revenge on the other. Why do we harden our hearts, even against those we want to love? Why do we find it so hard to admit being wrong? Why are the worst grudges the ones we hold against ourselves? When we nurse our resentments, Karen says, we are acting from an insecure aspect of the self that harbors unresolved pain from childhood. But we also have a forgiving self which is not compliant or fake, but rather the strongest, most loving part of who we are. Through it, we are able to voice anger without doing damage, to acknowledge our own part in what has gone wrong, to see the flaws in ourselves and others as part of our humanity. Karen demonstrates how we can move beyond our feelings of being wronged without betraying our legitimate anger and need for repair. The forgiving self, when we are able to locate it, brings relief from compulsive self-hatred and bitterness, and allows for a re-emergence of love.

Why Youth Is Not Wasted On The Young

Author: David F. Bjorklund
Publisher: John Wiley & Sons
ISBN: 1405181451
Size: 31.39 MB
Format: PDF, Kindle
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Why Youth is Not Wasted on the Young examines the nature of childhood through an evolutionary lens and argues that childhood is an essential stage of development with its own unique purposes, separate from those of adulthood; a time of growth and discovery that should not be rushed. Written by a renowned developmental psychologist Examines the role that our period of immaturity plays on the social, emotional, and educational needs of today’s children Challenges common perceptions of children as simply “adults in training”